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3 REASONS WHY YOU TAKE PEOPLE'S OPINIONS TOO SERIOUSLY - AND 3 WAYS TO STOP THAT

AND YOU'RE NOT THE ONLY ONE. THERE'S A SCIENCE BEHIND THIS...

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Dahlia Kurtz
DAHLIA is like Mister Rogers' Neighborhood - but for adults. This fun and meaningful podcast looks for the helpers and ways to help you through your day. It may be conversations with everyday people doing extraordinary things, Oscar winners who have overcome the odds, or the man who jumped off The Golden Gate Bridge to take his life, yet miraculously lived to save so many lives. It may be giving a voice to those in need. But it’s always bringing people together. You won't get inundated with information here. You already get too much of that. You need wonder and reflection. So expect lots of that. Dahlia has been a talk show host for a decade with a mission to spread kindness. And her Network of Angels always leaves a trail. So come on over and let's make good things happen ... Why live and let live when you can live and HELP live?
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Why do other people’s opinions about you matter so much to you? Or, well, to us? (Because you’re not the only one.) Why do we need to define our self-image through others people’s eyes? Someone says you have a big nose, and suddenly, “I have a big nose.” Someone calls you stupid, and suddenly, “I’m stupid.”

You’ve lived with yourself your entire life. Shouldn’t you know who you are? Why do you let others define you?

This stops, today.

PART 1 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉ

In this episode, you will learn the three science-backed reasons why other people’s opinions about you seem to matter so much. And you will get three tools to disarm these opinionated weapons people toss at you. (Don’t worry, NONE of these tools say, “Just stop caring about what others say.”)

Have you ever heard that Aristotle quote, “To avoid criticism, say nothing, do nothing, be nothing.” 

You can do that. It will keep you safe. Maybe. But, if you do, I’ll give you the for-sure part right now …

PART 2 WITH DR. GABOR MATÉ

If you don’t know who you are - here are two guarantees: 

1. Someone’s gonna tell ya.

And,

2. That won’t be who you are or what you want to be.

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IN EPISODE 22 YOU WILL LEARN:

• The 3 science-backed reasons why you put so much value into what other people say.
• The 3 ways to change that.
• Why you should NOT develop a thick skin - and what to do to protect yourself instead.
• The difference between self-esteem and self-worth - which will change your entire perception of your value.
• How to understand your cognitive distortions (faulty wiring).
• At least a couple of embarrassing stories about me - or as I prefer to call them, embraceable stories - because I go through this too.
• You are not the only one. (This is something you learn every episode.)

EP. 21: GET UNSTUCK WITH DANIEL MATÉ

And if you feel like you don’t fit in, remember this: Maybe that’s because you’re not meant to fit in. You’re meant to stand out!

Look, when conformity is the cure for social anxiety - conformity is also the cause of it. Don’t let it trap you in its web - or World Wide Web, as it were.

P.S. If you missed my two-part conversation with Dr. Gabor Maté - the world’s leading expert in trauma and addictions - that is definitely required listening. But only if you want to live a better life. Millions and millions of people have now watched the video snippets from that chat. You can find those on TikTok and Instagram - with more to come!

Also, please leave a review on Apple or Spotify - or wherever you listen to this. Really, it just makes it easier for other people to find this podcast - which is truly growing into a supportive community so much faster than I imagined.

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